So a friend of mine in pre has told me they have recently been bullied by some other players saying that they should "Go die" etc. and it makes me angry. So I thought of a thread where you can name and shame; kinda like the blacklisted players.
Originally I wanted to name and shame bullys/trolls in Guildwars but your comments have opened my eyes; So now it's all about being nice to those people.
Post by ishalldefend on May 28, 2018 10:46:50 GMT -8
I don't know about this - someone might have a bad experience with a person, but someone else might have a good experience with them. People should have a chance to redeem themselves. It's not like they're scamming, so I don't really see the point of this. Just because someone says one mean thing I don't think they should forever be avoided.
I agree, one instance is probably not enough to condemn someone. However, if 4 or 5 people have the same experience with the same person regularly and separately, that starts to draw a different picture than someone having a bad day.
Post by Incandescent Anon on May 29, 2018 8:38:05 GMT -8
There are always a few people who aren't in game to have a good time but to spread their own misery to as many people as possible. Shaming them isn't a good long term strategy, mostly because you can't shame the mentally ill. The small percentage of trolls who are doing it for fun is sadly outweighed by the larger number of people who have real life issues that mirror their in game issues. If you want to fix the problem you're going to need funding from congress to expand mental health care, or an army of robotic Mr. Rodgers to spread out and neutralize all the anger.
Regardless of motivation your best bet is to put them on ignore. Tell the people you actually like interacting with the names to be aware of, and let them decide if their game time is worth wasting on people who have no positive impact on their experience. If they insist on arguing with them in local chat then perhaps its time to reevaluate your peer group.
That being said, sometimes it is worthwhile to reach and and show some compassion to people who are clearly unwell. The percentage of them who can step back and recognize they have a problem is small, but its rewarding when you do see a change in long term behavior from someone who once seemed so lost and hopeless. Just be prepared to let it go and put them on block.
You deserve better with your limited time in Guild Wars. And now for what you all came for... Gratuitous Anger...
I'm in the green text.. in case it looks confusing to some...
i was going to shut this thread down but... if someone has an attitude like this, feel free to put him on ignore, and shame him by throwing reports his way heck, even email this screenie to A-net.
but seriously, please keep the people-shaming on our forum to a minimum, we don't want to promote that kind of environment, and at the end of the day, it'll just invite people like our poor friend Doug in the messages above
Personally, I do have bad days sometimes, but, even then am not an outright douche unless someone else starts it. The vast majority of the time I'm nice, but, some ppl don't deserve 'nice' (I'm sure most ppl know at least one person in kama that tends to provoke a negative reaction from anyone possible 🐔🐓🐣). In most cases I will at most say a few 'choice' words to them, then usually go farm/quest/chestrun etc or just logout depending on how much my head hurts from dealing with stupidity.
That being said, if I can be mostly nice idk what some ppls excuse is. I'm severely bipolar, I'm on 'mood stabilizers' and even an antipsychotic most commonly prescribed to schizophrenics... if I can play nice wtf is wrong with some ppl?
Oh, and... using the wrong 'your' that many times is pretty hilarious. That mistake alone would probably get that guy ignored.
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